As Maya Angelou says “When you learn, teach. When you get, give.” And I keep feeling this constant nudge from within, urging me to share what I’m learning, what I’m figuring out, in real-time, as it’s happening, so here we go…
What do I believe in? It’s something I’ve been asking myself for as long as I can remember, and it’s something my oldest daughter has begun to ask me as well. Her asking has lit a fire and forced me to really work through my beliefs, hone in on what is important, and to think in-depth about what kind of world I want to help shape for her and her sister. Throughout the years, reading, studying and listening to so many different people, from all different backgrounds and religions, I’ve been able to extrapolate little ideas and theories that have landed. Ideas that have triggered something within me, that have resonated. And after much thought, study, and deliberation, I think I’m finally able to pull together an answer to that age-old question.
When it comes down to it, I believe in the innate goodness of Humanity. The beauty of our Earth. The awesomeness of the Universe. The cyclical nature of Life. And within that, the balance of Masculine and Feminine energy. I believe that everything and everyone has energy. And most recently, I’ve recently made the leap from believing that everything has an energy to believing we are all connected. Whoa. I know… but just hear me out.
People have been talking about Feminine and Masculine energy for centuries, or Yin and Yang. Masculine energy is linear, results driven, hard, angular, aggressive, strong, and analytical, while Feminine energy is fluid, cyclical, soft, creative, thoughtful, nurturing, and compassionate. With respect to Yin (feminine), that energy relates to the moon while Yang (masculine) relates to the sun. I’ve been doing a lot of research, and believe it or not, there was once a time when there was a respect for both the Masculine and Feminine energies. Over the years, our patriarchal society has tried to downplay the positivity of femininity. (And the reasoning behind that is a topic much to large to delve into here and now, so we’ll save that for another day.) Today’s culture rewards Masculine ways of acting, speaking, being, while shaming the feminine. The Feminine is viewed as weak and less than. We feel and witness this everyday. Thoughtful, sensitive and introverted boys are bullied while the aggressive, strong, outspoken ones are encouraged to become leaders or athletes. While girls are expected to be emotional (we are the feminine gender after-all), it’s seen as an annoyance, unpredictable, and weak. Most women who are able to be in some position of prestige and power have done so by embracing their masculine attributes, more than their feminine. This is because, weather subliminally or outright, we’ve been told we must act like men if we want to be as successful. But I would like to argue that it doesn’t need to be either/or. In fact, I don’t think it can be. The wisest and best of us are a balance of both. We’re all meant to be both. Life is created through the combination of both energies. And I believe we need to find balance on this planet in order to survive.
This idea of healing the energy imbalance within this world is where I am today. It’s what I’m constantly thinking about. And it’s funny – as I’ve made a conscious commitment to following my curiosity over the past two years, little by little, that has led me organically to practices that embrace the Divine Feminine. And that, I’ve decided, is my soul’s calling. I want to talk about ways to infuse more femininity into our everyday life so that we can rebalance the planet.
A mission to rebalance the planet sounds heavy. It feels heavy. But it also feels so incredibly important in this world where racism still runs rampant. Where school shootings and murders are occurring at an alarming rate. Where women are taken advantage of, abused, and sexually assaulted. We’ve been shown that aggression is ok. Masculinity has been the way to get things done. To push forward. To achieve. But this masculine dominance has broken and divided our society. It’s through the ashes that we can rise, rebuild and rebalance.
I already feel the shift happening in the world. We just have to be open. Open hearted, and open-minded. If we start there, the shift will happen naturally in small ways. It’s through hearing and empathizing with another’s point of view that we allow our perspective to shift. (Listening and empathizing are feminine qualities…) It’s through being aware and fully conscious that we are able to see the world for all the beauty it has to offer.
And so, this is my mission. It’s what I feel we need to teach our children. We have to find ways of embracing the Feminine energy within ourselves and the world. I have found a few, and if you’ve stuck with me this far, I’m excited to begin sharing those ideas with you in more detail the coming weeks. It’s really getting back to basics through timeless practices and traditions that involve paying attention to nature, appreciating nature, re-learning how to listen to ourselves, and slowing down. It’s through action and demonstration that we can show our children a way to embrace both energies and create change for the future generation. We don’t have to be one or the other. We can all be both. And together, we can build a balanced, more peaceful world.